
Several people have asked this question: "When sharing your faith, do you still ask, 'Have you ever stolen anything?,' or 'Have you ever told a lie?'"
My answer is typically, "Not often, if ever." And there are reasons for this, some of which I will share with you right now.
If, while sharing the gospel, God has providentially allowed as much time as needed, asking the question 'have you ever lied, stolen, etc.' does not scratch the surface of the Law.
Jesus gave us an example when He said, "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Our Lord gave us an indication of how broad sweeping the Law is, and how it is inescapable.
As a side note: when Jesus made this claim, He did not mean that looking with lustful desire
is the same as adultery. In other words, they are not sinful equivalents. I have made this claim in the past and it is absolutely incorrect.
Again, what the Lord is allowing us to see is that the Law covers every aspect of our sinful lives and we are guilty under the Law with virtually every breath, word, deed, or even lustful desire.
The Law is heavy and we must consider it not only for ourselves, but also during our witnessing encounters. And thus asking the question 'have you ever lied' only begins to expand the Law.
Consider this: when you were growing up, what were some of the rules your parents gave you? Did they ever tell you, "Crew with your mouth closed." Or did you ever hear, "Say please and thank you after everything you say." Or what about this one: "When you're talking to an adult say 'sir or ma'am.' Hopefully you realize you've never kept all those rules. Hopefully you realize by not obeying your parents in those matters you broke the 5th Commandment. And most of all, hopefully you realize by reading this that you've never kept one rule you've ever been given. Think about it...
Have you always completed your "to do lists?" Have you always driven the speed limit? Have you always kept every rule at work, or do you take short cuts?
We are a desperately sinful people that fail in every aspect of our lives because the Law is entirely too much to bear. We
cannot do it!
"Have you ever told a lie?" How about:
1. Have you ever tried to deliberately fool someone?
2. Have you exchanged the truth of God for a lie?
3. Have you entertained deceitful thoughts?
4. Do you believe you're someone you're not?
And the list goes on and on all falling under the 9th Commandment. This is also why the apostle John can say, "Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him."
Do you see how heavy and wide the Law is? Hatred is even condemned under the Law.
Without Christ, we are all doomed for destruction in the pit. This is what the world (and this includes ourselves) must know. We cannot uphold the Law in and of ourselves.
But God...Do you see? Do you see? Now the good news makes sense, but it shouldn't only make sense to the unbeliever, as the Holy Spirit illumines his/her eyes, but it should make a lot more sense to you right now.
This is the good news. It is all contained in the two words, "But God..."
In conclusion...
Please understand that the Law of God hurts and condemns more than merely 'have you ever stolen anything?' It functions as a schoolmaster to turn people, as it did the apostle Paul, toward Christ. It is not meant to be upheld even by the most pious unbeliever because that is impossible.
You can further show them their idolatry by asking them, "Have you ever prayed?" Well clearly they are not praying to the God of the Bible. So there again, they have broken another commandment--it's idolatry. From there, you can expand the Law even more (and it doing so, stay within the bounds of Scripture).
Thus, if I have time with an unbeliever, I pull out my Bible (provided I have one) and I take the time to explain all these things.
Then, as the conversation continues, I say:
But God...
So...
Brothers and Sisters: while the Law is heavy and wide sweeping, rejoice in that you have received the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. You are under grace because of the work of the Son. You are no longer condemned under the Law. You don't have to live like it nor act like it. Live from a point of grace and not from works. Christ has fulfilled the Law on your behalf. Rejoice again I say rejoice!